Pep (@peptalksblog)

Ever felt torn between people-pleasing or being a jerk, not knowing how to be neither? Here’s a thread on why that happens, how to build self-respect without losing care for others—and be kind without betraying yourself 🧵...

21 counter-intuitive tweets that illustrate how boundaries can benefit everyone involved:🧵...

Did you know that the most widely taught feedback method actually makes your feedback less effective? A thread on what to do instead🧵...

One of the most powerful life skills you can develop: Building the capacity to feel. So many issues across life are downstream of low feeling capacity that I think this should be core curriculum. Here's why it matters and how to practice it: 🧵...

A couple of years ago, I decided to stop cursing. Much to my surprise, it made a significant impact on my life. Here's why: 🧵...

A tiny habit that can make a huge difference: Pausing. Just a fraction of a moment. Before speaking, to digest what you heard & your internal response to it. Before action, to notice the intention that gave rise to it. 1 conscious breath to move from conditioning to choice🧵...

Behind many of our judgments are needs that feel vulnerable to admit to ourselves. E.g. When my head judges someone to be a bigot, my heart might whisper “I want to feel free & safe. But I feel my way of being is threatened by others.” Funnily, we might share that sentiment....

The paradox of identity: The aspects of you that make you feel most like an individual are the ones that exist because of other people. Here's why (and how you can use this to resolve conflicts or unblock stuck patterns)🧵...

Most relationship advice focuses on the people inside the relationship. But here's an entirely different, surprisingly powerful perspective I rarely see discussed: 🧵...