Pep (@peptalksblog)

When we discover a framework that looks at (social) reality from a new perspective—especially one that reveals dynamics we were previously blind to—it can feel like we’re finally seeing what’s really going on underneath. Ironically, this makes us more blind:...

I don’t recommend books often. But there’s a handful of books I find myself recommending over and over to different clients. Here’s the list 🧵 (**More precisely, 11 handfuls. 1 book is already a handful.)...

Empathy is often misunderstood (I know, ironic). Some call it a weakness or energy drain, others an essential trait. The confusion stems from fuzzy or conflated definitions. A thread on what empathy is (and isn't) 🧵...

61+ tweets and threads that can help you get better at conflict: (Consider this thread a growing library on the topic)🧵...

One mindset shift that significantly decreases drama in your life: Owning your experience. This is often dismissed as therapy speak. But in reality, it’s more about changing how you relate to things than how you phrase them:🧵...

Tone and rhythm are to writing what body language is to speaking. They often communicate more than the literal meaning. Including things the communicator is unaware of—or thinks they’re concealing....

When she was 5yo, my sister was always terrified of Santa Claus coming. Confused, my parents asked her why she was afraid of the day she'd randomly wake up to gifts & candy. Her response makes so much sense that I felt dumb for NOT being scared:...

Crazy to think that everyone we interact with communicates within the context of paradigms invisible to us, e.g: - Reference scales: 1 person's peak happiness is another's bad mood - Amount of duality distinctions: 1 can obsess over something that for another doesn't even exist...

If the people around us feel shallow & one-dimensional, there's a good chance we're unconsciously damning them. This causes us to miss deeper intimacy and see conflict that isn't always there. A thread about “undamning”—and why I think everyone benefits from learning it🧵...