This is NOT me being sarcastic; I mean it: I love the boys. I have...
ᴮᴱNot Important is Celebrating BTS Year⁷@JustHere4_BTS
6 views
Aug 20, 2026
~2 min read
Advertisement
1
This is NOT me being sarcastic; I mean it:
I love the boys. I have loved them for nearly a decade. But the level of control their personal actions have on some people’s emotions & overall mental wellness genuinely concerns me+
I love the boys. I have loved them for nearly a decade. But the level of control their personal actions have on some people’s emotions & overall mental wellness genuinely concerns me+
2
I know it’s different when you’re very young & it’s harder to separate identity. I also know many of us (including me) have been profoundly impacted by BTS’s music+
3
This is also not a comment on being pleased or disappointed. It’s possible to be either without it being unhealthy or concerning. It’s everyone’s right to feel either way about anything+
4
My concern is the genuine level of dependence some people (from their own posts) seem to have on the behavior of others to dictate their whole level of functioning+
5
Over the years, BTS members have made various decisions I liked & some I did not like. I have had times when I was thrilled & times when I wished it could be different+
6
My following of BTS, however, does not dictate my entire life or emotions. This community is important to me, and BTS are my favorite artists of all time—but I live my own life, and their life as people is entirely separate from that+
7
While I love BTS, support them in practical ways, and enjoy Army, I am not comfortable with encouraging anyone to hang their entire life on BTS, their actions, their perceived perfection or imperfection, or anything similar+
8
I am old enough to be the mother of some of this community, and I want to see Army flourish in their own lives, with BTS as an encouragement & their music as an empowering force+
9
BTS has never signed on to be anyone’s therapist or deity. We are strong; we can live and make decisions and flourish in our lives. I don’t like seeing anyone conceding their power to someone they don’t know, even to people I love as much as I care for the members+
10
The level of emotional dependence some people show would be concerning even in a close relationship, let alone in a parasocial context+
11
We say “touch grass” as a joke, but it’s not always unserious.
Any event can be an opportunity to grow. I genuinely hope some may realize that being so dependent on the perceived perfection of ppl you will never meet is concerning for yourself, independent of anyone else.
Any event can be an opportunity to grow. I genuinely hope some may realize that being so dependent on the perceived perfection of ppl you will never meet is concerning for yourself, independent of anyone else.