At root of almost all of your social skill issues is belief you're...
Grant Lannin@retirementkeys
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Jun 08, 2026
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At root of almost all of your social skill issues is belief you're burdening people. Self-image problem
If you just give 0 fucks and have fun with it, everyone loves that energy. And if they don't they are grumpy & lost. Key is u genuinely gotta not give a fuck, not pretend to not give a fuck (because if ur pretending, u still WANT a result, and that neediness will show)
Can train yourself to believe you're a blessing to any conversation because you bring fun & good vibes. You also bring permission for others to be themselves because you're yourself. And who wouldn't want that?
Then you genuinely cease to believe you're ever a burden. You believe you're genuine value, so why wouldn't you share it, at any moment
If you just give 0 fucks and have fun with it, everyone loves that energy. And if they don't they are grumpy & lost. Key is u genuinely gotta not give a fuck, not pretend to not give a fuck (because if ur pretending, u still WANT a result, and that neediness will show)
Can train yourself to believe you're a blessing to any conversation because you bring fun & good vibes. You also bring permission for others to be themselves because you're yourself. And who wouldn't want that?
Then you genuinely cease to believe you're ever a burden. You believe you're genuine value, so why wouldn't you share it, at any moment
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Also need to understand if you're being yourself - some will fuck with it, some won't. And for the ones that do, there's nothing else to add. that's it. Your value is your energetic signature. Performing doesn't matter, what you say doesn't matter, it's pure energy of you.
So either someone likes energy of you or doesn't. Genuinely doesn't matter to you cuz you know good fits are endless for you. So you offer good energy, and some take it. If they don't, their loss. And you genuinely view it that way. You basically feel a form of pity for them. "oh wow, they can't let go. how sad".
Vibes
So either someone likes energy of you or doesn't. Genuinely doesn't matter to you cuz you know good fits are endless for you. So you offer good energy, and some take it. If they don't, their loss. And you genuinely view it that way. You basically feel a form of pity for them. "oh wow, they can't let go. how sad".
Vibes
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If you think this means “being obnoxoious” or “being an arrogant asshole”, you can’t read.
The message is: your value comes from being yourself, and that value will shine through for the right person. Most of you are confusing not having a horrible self-image with arrogance, as reflected by the fact you got triggered from a positive/hopeful post
Wishing you love
The message is: your value comes from being yourself, and that value will shine through for the right person. Most of you are confusing not having a horrible self-image with arrogance, as reflected by the fact you got triggered from a positive/hopeful post
Wishing you love
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If your perpspective of reality is that carrying the belief within you of “i provide value to people by being myself & not caring what I get out of it” = ARROGANCE or DELSUIONAL…
You are cooked.
Imagine genuinely viewing the statement “i’m not a burden because I have value to provide to the world in my own way” as delusional.
self-hate so deep, can’t read
You are cooked.
Imagine genuinely viewing the statement “i’m not a burden because I have value to provide to the world in my own way” as delusional.
self-hate so deep, can’t read