A personal trainer I know has slept with 11 clients in 2 years....
Martinet | Dating Truths@the_martinet
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May 19, 2026
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A personal trainer I know has slept with 11 clients in 2 years.
He's not:
• attractive
• smooth
• tall
Every single one of them initiated over text.
I asked him what his first text to each of them looked like.
Same structure every time.
Here's what it was... 👇
He's not:
• attractive
• smooth
• tall
Every single one of them initiated over text.
I asked him what his first text to each of them looked like.
Same structure every time.
Here's what it was... 👇
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1. Open with immediate disqualification.
Most men text trying to prove they are a perfect match. He did the exact opposite.
He texted: "We are definitely going to hate each other."
Starting with a playful rejection instantly forces her ego to prove him wrong.
Most men text trying to prove they are a perfect match. He did the exact opposite.
He texted: "We are definitely going to hate each other."
Starting with a playful rejection instantly forces her ego to prove him wrong.
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2. Establish pure logistical authority.
Trainers naturally command a room. He translated that exact authority to the screen.
He never asked what days she wanted to work out.
He texted: "Be ready at six."
Removing her choices establishes a firm, dominant frame.
Trainers naturally command a room. He translated that exact authority to the screen.
He never asked what days she wanted to work out.
He texted: "Be ready at six."
Removing her choices establishes a firm, dominant frame.
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3. Spotlight a trivial flaw immediately.
Every guy flatters her best features. He targeted a trivial flaw instead.
He texted: "Your form on those squats was terrible."
A cold observation instantly makes his eventual validation a highly coveted prize.
Every guy flatters her best features. He targeted a trivial flaw instead.
He texted: "Your form on those squats was terrible."
A cold observation instantly makes his eventual validation a highly coveted prize.
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4. Don't praise.
Women pay trainers to look good, and expect constant compliments on their progress.
He completely withheld all physical praise.
When a man refuses to validate her body, she becomes entirely obsessed with earning his approval.
Women pay trainers to look good, and expect constant compliments on their progress.
He completely withheld all physical praise.
When a man refuses to validate her body, she becomes entirely obsessed with earning his approval.
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5. Kill the digital small talk completely.
He never asked about her weekend or her boring job.
If she sent a chatty text, he left it on read until their next physical session.
Treating the phone strictly as a tool proves a man is unfazed by her beauty.
He never asked about her weekend or her boring job.
If she sent a chatty text, he left it on read until their next physical session.
Treating the phone strictly as a tool proves a man is unfazed by her beauty.
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The average guy ruins his chances by acting like a polite yes-man in her DMs.
Stop bending over backwards and start polarizing her.
• Drop the safe openers
• Withhold physical validation
• Command the digital frame
Take total control today 👇
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Stop bending over backwards and start polarizing her.
• Drop the safe openers
• Withhold physical validation
• Command the digital frame
Take total control today 👇
hookher.carrd.co
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6. Assign a disrespectful nickname.
Instead of using her name, he strictly called her "Trouble" or "Slacker."
A slightly patronizing nickname instantly shatters the professional barrier.
It removes the high pedestal she expects every man to put her on.
Instead of using her name, he strictly called her "Trouble" or "Slacker."
A slightly patronizing nickname instantly shatters the professional barrier.
It removes the high pedestal she expects every man to put her on.
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7. Never become her emotional dumpster.
Clients vent to trainers constantly. When she texted about a bad day, he shut it down.
He replied: "Save the drama for the gym."
Refusing to be her emotional tampon makes his stoic attention highly desirable.
Clients vent to trainers constantly. When she texted about a bad day, he shut it down.
He replied: "Save the drama for the gym."
Refusing to be her emotional tampon makes his stoic attention highly desirable.
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8. Sever the chat at its absolute peak.
Right when the banter got intensely playful, he would completely vanish.
He never sent a weak sign-off text like "Gotta go!"
Leaving the conversation totally unresolved forces her brain to obsess over him all night.
Right when the banter got intensely playful, he would completely vanish.
He never sent a weak sign-off text like "Gotta go!"
Leaving the conversation totally unresolved forces her brain to obsess over him all night.
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9. Associate his attention with friction.
He made sure interacting with him felt like a challenge, never a comfort.
He playfully mocked her stamina or grip strength.
When a man introduces friction, her biology recognizes a threat she must win over.
He made sure interacting with him felt like a challenge, never a comfort.
He playfully mocked her stamina or grip strength.
When a man introduces friction, her biology recognizes a threat she must win over.
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10. Pass the push-pull silence test.
When she inevitably tested him by going cold for two days, he never double-texted.
He entirely matched her silence without any ego.
When she realizes a man is fully prepared to walk away, her attraction skyrockets.
When she inevitably tested him by going cold for two days, he never double-texted.
He entirely matched her silence without any ego.
When she realizes a man is fully prepared to walk away, her attraction skyrockets.
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When she realizes a man is fully prepared to walk away, her attraction skyrockets.
Most guys fail entirely because they try to build raw physical attraction using logical, friendly text messages.
When a man stops treating a beautiful woman like a fragile customer...
Most guys fail entirely because they try to build raw physical attraction using logical, friendly text messages.
When a man stops treating a beautiful woman like a fragile customer...
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...and starts aggressively commanding her reality, he completely flips her biological switches.
She deeply craves a man who is an unapologetic challenge.
• Introduce playful friction
• Master the silent pull-away
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She deeply craves a man who is an unapologetic challenge.
• Introduce playful friction
• Master the silent pull-away
GET My Ebook NOW 👇
hookher.carrd.co