Do Not Abandon the Women Who Gave You Their Youth. Umar ibn al-...
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Jan 12, 2026
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Do Not Abandon the Women Who Gave You Their Youth.
Umar ibn al-Khattab رضي الله عنه said to a man who intended to divorce his wife:
“Why do you want to divorce her?”
He said: “I do not love her.”
Umar ibn al-Khattab رضي الله عنه said to a man who intended to divorce his wife:
“Why do you want to divorce her?”
He said: “I do not love her.”
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Umar رضي الله عنه said:
“And must every household be built upon love?
What about loyalty and appreciation? Or was anyone forcing you to marry her when you married her?”
“And must every household be built upon love?
What about loyalty and appreciation? Or was anyone forcing you to marry her when you married her?”
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Then he delivered a speech, saying:
“O men! When we enter marriage, we give our wives a solemn covenant! A woman bears children and goes through the hardships of pregnancy and weakness!
“O men! When we enter marriage, we give our wives a solemn covenant! A woman bears children and goes through the hardships of pregnancy and weakness!
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Then she nurses the young and stays awake through the nights watching over the sick, giving them drink and nourishment. All this comes at the cost of her health and youth!
How fair is it, then, that her husband abandons her when she reaches an advanced age?
How fair is it, then, that her husband abandons her when she reaches an advanced age?
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Had she neglected the affairs of her home and family, and instead cared only for herself and her physical appearance and beauty, then her husband would have said: ‘What a poor housekeeper and mother she is!’
So where should she go? Where are righteousness and loyalty?
So where should she go? Where are righteousness and loyalty?
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Fear Allah in your dealings with your wives!”
- al-Bayan wa al-Tabyin, 2/101 & Fara’id al-Kalam p.113
- al-Bayan wa al-Tabyin, 2/101 & Fara’id al-Kalam p.113
