Paying school fees and rent are acts of love. Consistent care and...
Pretiosa periculis@GacheriNdumba
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Feb 17, 2025
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Paying school fees and rent are acts of love.
Consistent care and provision is the ultimate expression of love.
Because it demands waking up every day and committing yourself to making another person’s life stable and predictable.
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Consistent care and provision is the ultimate expression of love.
Because it demands waking up every day and committing yourself to making another person’s life stable and predictable.
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This consistent sacrifice of the self is the highest offering of love.
It is not ordering that kuku tumbukiza because you think the house may not have tokens.
It is driving a Datsun Kagui for a decade to save money on car maintenance and afford that school for your kids.
It is not ordering that kuku tumbukiza because you think the house may not have tokens.
It is driving a Datsun Kagui for a decade to save money on car maintenance and afford that school for your kids.
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The girls are confusing romance with love, despite the fact that it is never either or. It is OK to want both and to ask for both.
Romance is a set of gestures interpreted as an expression of love. Usually gestures incorporating, small luxuries.
You can ask for both.
Romance is a set of gestures interpreted as an expression of love. Usually gestures incorporating, small luxuries.
You can ask for both.
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Romance is a set of highlights. Love is an every day decision and commitment.
We live in a culture that glorifies passionate romances because to be very honest deep consistent love is BORING.
Boring is good.
We live in a culture that glorifies passionate romances because to be very honest deep consistent love is BORING.
Boring is good.
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Meeting a person who makes you feel settled (translation emotionally regulated) and settling down with them are good things.
Romance is exciting but you cannot live healthily in a constant state of excitement i.e. dysregulation. You want romance as an accent piece of your love.
Romance is exciting but you cannot live healthily in a constant state of excitement i.e. dysregulation. You want romance as an accent piece of your love.
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Valuing romance to the exclusion of constancy in domesticity is a recipe for a scorched life.
Jesus performed miracles now and then, but mostly he preached and taught. And in case you missed it, often he would be teaching when the opportunity ‘to miracle’ presented itself.
Jesus performed miracles now and then, but mostly he preached and taught. And in case you missed it, often he would be teaching when the opportunity ‘to miracle’ presented itself.
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It is hundreds of thousands of people following and listening to an itinerant preacher talking to them about the kingdom of God and every now and then something spectacular happens.
And notably, in Nazareth when people only came for the miracles, he exited the chat.
And notably, in Nazareth when people only came for the miracles, he exited the chat.
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A lot of older women would have traded ALL the highlights of their marriage for consistency.
This is what they mean when they tell you, “tafuta mtu mnaweza pangana.”
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This is what they mean when they tell you, “tafuta mtu mnaweza pangana.”
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If you sit down with your partner and agree that they will do X while you do Y, there is no peace like walking around, knowing you only have to do Y because you can count on them to fulfill that X.
A lot of women in older generations ended up (at best) doing Y and parts of X.
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A lot of women in older generations ended up (at best) doing Y and parts of X.
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