A breakup with a low-effort partner is so painful because you realize you did all the work.
You accepted what you shouldn't.
But here's what you learned:
Low effort partnership is confusing because it's not always toxic. There's love there. But, your nervous system always felt irritated, anxious, and like you had to be the one to hold it together.
You initiated and pushed for difficult conversations. You tried to repair. You showed up over and over again and watched someone go through the motions.
You felt them check out. And shut down. You questioned why you couldn't just be happy. You thought "maybe I'm asking for too much."
Low effort partnership teaches you that you shouldn't have to repeat yourself over and over again. You deserve to be heard. You deserve someone invested in working as a team.
Low effort partnership teaches you that you weren't meant to always taken the initiative. You need someone who can plan, take things off your plate, and make things easier, not more difficult.
Low effort partnership teaches you falling in love is easy. That's why so many people do it. What's not easy is choosing love every day. Even when it's not convenient. Even when it's not comfortable.
Low effort partnership teaches you your intuition is never wrong. You weren't meant to be tolerated. You were meant to be celebrated. You were meant to be loved well by someone who sees you emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
Low effort partnership teaches you how considerate you actually are. How you go above and beyond. And how you deserved to be loved well, instead of being an afterthought.
Love effort partnership teaches you what you want is someone that carries the mental load, who reminds you they're not going anywhere, and who reassures you in moments you're insecure that they love you exactly as you are.
Have you experienced low effort partnership?
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