Here's the secret of the most charismatic people in the world...
The 3 Levels of Listening:
I used to think that being charismatic meant talking the most.
I was wrong.
Charisma is about being interested, not interesting. Charismatic people are present and engaged.
They are exceptional listeners.
I recently learned that there are three levels of listening:
I was wrong.
Charisma is about being interested, not interesting. Charismatic people are present and engaged.
They are exceptional listeners.
I recently learned that there are three levels of listening:
Level 1: "Me" Listening
You're in a conversation, but your internal voice is relating everything you hear to something in your own life.
Your internal voice runs off on tangents while the other person is talking.
You're waiting to speak.
This is the default mode of listening.
You're in a conversation, but your internal voice is relating everything you hear to something in your own life.
Your internal voice runs off on tangents while the other person is talking.
You're waiting to speak.
This is the default mode of listening.
Level 2: "You" Listening
You're having a conversation, and you are deeply focused on what the other person is saying.
You are present and intently focused.
You're not waiting to speak, you're listening to learn.
You're having a conversation, and you are deeply focused on what the other person is saying.
You are present and intently focused.
You're not waiting to speak, you're listening to learn.
Level 3: "Us" Listening
You're building a "map" of the other person, understanding how all the new information they are sharing fits into that broader map of their life and world.
You're listening to understand, considering the layers beneath what the other person is saying.
You're building a "map" of the other person, understanding how all the new information they are sharing fits into that broader map of their life and world.
You're listening to understand, considering the layers beneath what the other person is saying.
Most people live their lives as Level 1 listeners.
Charismatic people have a practiced intention around Level 2 and Level 3 listening.
With this framework in mind, pay attention to the conversations you have over the coming week:
Charismatic people have a practiced intention around Level 2 and Level 3 listening.
With this framework in mind, pay attention to the conversations you have over the coming week:
• What level of listening do you typically find yourself in?
• How can you flip some of your Level 1 into Level 2 and unlock new depth in your relationships?
• Where might Level 3 listening benefit your most important relationships (partner, children, parents, siblings)?
• How can you flip some of your Level 1 into Level 2 and unlock new depth in your relationships?
• Where might Level 3 listening benefit your most important relationships (partner, children, parents, siblings)?
The 3 Levels of Listening is an idea that will change your interaction with the world.
Once you internalize it, you'll experience conversations differently.
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Once you internalize it, you'll experience conversations differently.
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Rule: Stop trying to be INTERESTING and focus on being INTERESTED.
Interested people are prone to giving their deep attention to something to learn more about it.
They open up to the world—they ask great questions & observe.
Being interested is how you become interesting!
Interested people are prone to giving their deep attention to something to learn more about it.
They open up to the world—they ask great questions & observe.
Being interested is how you become interesting!
My life opened up once I stopped trying to be interesting.
I started prioritizing spending time in rooms filled with smart, thoughtful, kind people.
I was the “dumb” one in the room, so I learned to listen and learn.
Two ears, one mouth!
I started prioritizing spending time in rooms filled with smart, thoughtful, kind people.
I was the “dumb” one in the room, so I learned to listen and learn.
Two ears, one mouth!
“The loudest one in the room is the weakest one in the room.”
This is one of my favorite moments from one of my favorite movies…
This is one of my favorite moments from one of my favorite movies…
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