Narcissism is a belief that your experiences are more valid than anyone else's.
And, that everyone should cater to those experiences.
How To Cope With People Who Behave This Way:
Narcissism is the result of not properly going through each state of emotional development. This creates a lack of emotional maturity and ego-centric behavior.
Meaning, they cannot see a perceptive outside of their own.
Meaning, they cannot see a perceptive outside of their own.
People with a high level of narcissistic traits don't have a fully formed sense of self. This fragile sense of self makes any different beliefs, ideas, or experiences a threat. Defensiveness and deflection run very high as a way to protect themselves.
Someone with high level of narcissistic traits will:
- become reactive any time they're uncomfortable
- say things like "sorry I'm the worst person on earth" (shame based reactions)
- shut down or dominate conversations (desire for control)
- become reactive any time they're uncomfortable
- say things like "sorry I'm the worst person on earth" (shame based reactions)
- shut down or dominate conversations (desire for control)
- blame everyone around them (without self reflection)
- have a string of chaotic or codependent relationships
- vent to people who validate their views (strengthen belief "I am not the issue")
- have a string of chaotic or codependent relationships
- vent to people who validate their views (strengthen belief "I am not the issue")
This makes relationships with them very difficult because they don't have the maturity to be open to suggestion. And they don't have the emotional regulation to tolerate difference of perspective or opinion.
Here's How You Can Cope With Someone Who Behaves This Way:
1. Stay emotionally regulated: practice breathing and staying in your body. Do not try to "win" or cater to any demands. Focus on keeping calm, stable energy.
1. Stay emotionally regulated: practice breathing and staying in your body. Do not try to "win" or cater to any demands. Focus on keeping calm, stable energy.
2. Know most things will be taken personally: opening up deep conversations or expecting them to understand your point of view likely won't happen. Be aware of your own expectations and don't look for something someone cannot give.
3. See the child in them: when you really look, you'll notice behaviors like yelling, stomping, refusing to listen, and many other child-like behaviors. This is called age regression. Noticing the child in them will help remind you to disengage.
4. Set clear boundaries: you are under no obligation to have relationship with people that make your life chaotic, stressful, or who impact your health. Set clear limits for what behavior you'll accept and follow through, regardless of how they react.
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