HOW TO RAISE SIBLINGS WHO ACTUALLY LIKE EACH OTHER. By age, from a...
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HOW TO RAISE SIBLINGS WHO ACTUALLY LIKE EACH OTHER.
By age, from a mother who grew up in a rivalry and refused to host one:
1. Ages 3 to 6:
By age, from a mother who grew up in a rivalry and refused to host one:
1. Ages 3 to 6:
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1. Ages 3 to 6:
- Never compare them out loud. Not even favorably. Both kids hear a ranking
- The oldest gets privileges, never deputy-parent duty
- Let them team up against YOU: games, tickle wars, negotiations for dessert
- Never compare them out loud. Not even favorably. Both kids hear a ranking
- The oldest gets privileges, never deputy-parent duty
- Let them team up against YOU: games, tickle wars, negotiations for dessert
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- A few sacred toys stay private property. Everything else is commons. Clear borders, fewer wars
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2. Ages 7 to 11:
- Correct one kid without the other watching the show
- Give them a common project with ONE shared reward. Same team, same trophy
- Correct one kid without the other watching the show
- Give them a common project with ONE shared reward. Same team, same trophy
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- Assign a sibling-only secret mission each month. Conspiracy is glue at this age
- After fights, let them invent their own make-up ritual. Theirs will outlast yours
- After fights, let them invent their own make-up ritual. Theirs will outlast yours
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3. Ages 12 to 18:
- Never use one as the example for the other. Examples breed enemies
- Hear complaints about each other without opening a prosecution
- Never use one as the example for the other. Examples breed enemies
- Hear complaints about each other without opening a prosecution
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- Team chores against the timer, not against each other
- Make each kid the family's consulted expert on something. Experts don't need to compete
- Make each kid the family's consulted expert on something. Experts don't need to compete
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Here's the secret under every reactions: siblings don't become rivals because they're too similar.
They become rivals because the house accidentally runs a tournament, one ranking, one example, one comparison at a time.
They become rivals because the house accidentally runs a tournament, one ranking, one example, one comparison at a time.
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Close the tournament and something old and natural takes over. They were built to be allies. The house just has to stop paying them to be opponents.
The catch: a son and a daughter need the tournament closed differently, at every age, and most of us are refereeing on instinct.
The catch: a son and a daughter need the tournament closed differently, at every age, and most of us are refereeing on instinct.