@Giant_Herbs: Philosophy talk:1) today, I a...

Philosophy talk:
1) today, I am going to cover a few topics that are generally not spoken of together, & describe an interplay of wheels with wheels, or some of the complex gearing behind a certain portion of human psychology. I will start by saying I am not a psychologist, I

2) study patterns for a living, & while I also practice medicine, I am not your medical provider.

Ok, let’s start with a few common phrases, I am sure u have heard a few of these:
A) “We have a family history of xyz medical disorders.”
B) “the sins of the fathers will be

3) committed against 7 generations of sons (not a biblical reference in this case).
C) “you are acting just like your father/ mother.”
D) “I sound like my parents”
E) nature vs nurture
F) lastly, a less common one outside of Chinese medicine circles: “The emotions are the root

4) of disease.”
That should set the stage enough, for this piece.
So, we have a genetic pre-disposition to carry the same genes as our ancestors, both their failures & their successes. If there is a history of heart disease or cancer in one’s family, that is noted in one’s

5) medical history. These days, genetics are treated like facts, and facts are easy to document with the right tests. However, we know that a genetic pre-disposition does not always mean a person will get a disease, they just have a higher chance than average of getting a

6) a disease.
Less easy to document is a history of family behavior. Was mom or dad violent? Did they yell & scream but not commit violence? Did they beserk & commit violence & say things that they could not remember afterwards? Did they punish by beating a child, isolating a

7) Child, yelling at a child? Where did that behavior come from? Was it learned from a previous generation? Or was it spontaneous? Was it simply a natural escalation of punishment that was ignored by the child, until the parent decided that they would give the child something

8) that they could not ignore? Or was it “beat” into them by their parents? And where did the parents of the parents learn that behavior? How many generations can it be tracked back to? The sins of the fathers/ mothers are taught to the children of those parents. Those sins,

9) become a hereditary response to certain situations, usually situations of conflict. When a new parent comes into certain a new situation with a child, they instinctively respond in the way that they were treated as a child, it is the response that they were taught, through

10) their parents actions. “I sound like my father/ mother.” Actually, for that brief instant of fight or flight, when the parent let what they were taught take over, they became their own parents, & even if it only happens once, the sin has been passed down to yet another

11) generation. Thus, a family becomes a family of berserkers, a family of ragers, a family of screamers, because not a single generation thought to think it through, about how they were perpetuating the lineage of sin. They didn’t stop to think how it made them feel the first

12) time mommy or daddy screamed at them, how much trauma it created in their life, how it stopped their emotional growth in certain ways as a child, & how they were now perpetrating the same sins onto their own children. They did not stop to think about how they were fostering a

13) legacy of sin upon their own children passed down from their parents, the parents of those parents, etc. All it takes is one individual within a chain of lineage to break the family curse, by consciously choosing to not behave the way their parents treated them when they are

14) engaging with their own children. Now, this also spans not just from parent to child, but parent to parent, spouse to spouse. The question is: has the person who has been traumatized so normalized the trauma, that the behavior seems normal to them, when to any other rational

15) person, the behavior is erratic & the kind of behavior that highly functioning people see as immediate red flags. U see, erratic behavior is no different emotionally than having the innate sense about bad genetics. All species have an inherent background operating system that

16) helps individuals in that species select a mate. The most obvious genetic traits are strong, healthy, good teeth, good hair, & then socially the ability to have a good paying job, or in the animal world to be a good hunter, or forager, etc. Genetic weaknesses are generally

17) avoided: sickly in appearance, unhealthy, many diseases, inability to hunt or forage, inability to store or save, etc. Thus the various species survive generation to generation. So too for emotional lability & lack of emotional stability which leads to violence or violent

18) like behavior, these behaviors make a mate unattractive to a functioning person in the same way that someone who is sickly is unattractive. I am not saying all will avoid them, because people who are emotionally volatile, tend to attract other emotionally volatile people, &

19) then they beget emotionally volatile children, because the children learn from the parents that emotional volatility is normal. However, when those same parents recount their traumatic incidents as children with their own parents, when they are recounting their experience

20) from that place of trauma, if asked if they wanted their child to feel the same way, they would say they wouldn’t, but then when they are outside of their trauma & in their place of anger, they perpetuate the trauma.
Now, onto the third circle: “disease is rooted in the

21) emotions”/ “family history of disease” in Chinese medicine there are 5 primary organs- yin/ yang. Yin organs are considered to be solid organs, yang organs are considered to be hollow organs. I will list these as yin/ yang pairs: lung/ large intestine, kidney/ bladder,

22) liver/ gallbladder, heart/ small intestine, spleen (pancreas)/ stomach. The emotions of the 5 yin organs are lung - grief, kidneys- depression/ fear, liver - anger, heart - joy, spleen - overthinking/ pensiveness. Each organ also has an element to it: lung is metal, kidney

23) is water, liver is wood, heart is fire, spleen is earth. The way we think about this is: metal is mined from earth, water condenses on metal when it is cold, wood cannot grow with out water, fire cannot burn without wood, when fire is burns, it leaves earth as ash. These

24) concepts go back thousands of years. They provide a mechanism of study about how disease progresses, but one must think of them as a philosophical model, in the way that the west thinks about the 5 Platonic solids. So, the pattern I have described about 1 substance generating

25) the next substance, is called the generation cycle. One can think of it like this: fear turns into anger, anger allows one to resist. When one has a healthy amount of anger, one creates boundaries. When one has healthy boundaries, one becomes more happy. Happiness never lasts

26) and eventually one starts to ponder & think, as one ponders and thinks to much, it can lead to grief as one analyzes their choices, that grief can then turn into depression. Still with me? Presenting models to people that are not exposed to the model, often takes a fair

Amount of explanation. But getting back to the relationship of these things: so, if one has a generation cycle, one also has a destruction cycle. Metal chops wood, wood overgrow earth, earth dams water, water puts out fire, fire melts metal. So, how does this relate to disease?

Have u ever known someone with congestive heart failure? Fluid fills the sac around the heart, we would call it pulmonary edema, & the heart stops functioning as well- water puts out fire. In End stage diabetes, there is often kidney failure - earth dams water. Etc. now, imagine

29) a family has a predisposition towards a certain emotion, such as rage. That would affect three organ networks: the liver itself (wood), the heart (fire), & the spleen (earth). So, a family that tends to have rage, may also suffer from cheater disease & insulin type diseases,

Such as diabetes, hypoglycemia, etc. they may also have liver function diseases, such as decreased ability to process substances, liver cancer, etc. I am not trying to be vague here, simply giving enough so that one can follow a long- whole books have been written about these

Subjects, & this is just a small essay. In a parent child relationship, the parent is the aggressor/ the child is the victim. The aggressor is likely going to manifest pathology sooner, while the child is going to have the pathology instilled into them by the aggressor. That

32) pathology is going to start as an emotion. That emotion may be fear, it may be depression, it may be grief, it may cause the child to withdraw, it may cause the child to act out, but the aggressors actions have an effect that will dictate the emotional health of that child as

33) well as their potential for disease as that child grows up. The aggressor parent furthers the sins of their parents upon their lineage, & furthers the medical history of their family upon the child, while at the same time hindering the emotional growth of the child by

34) teaching the child that erratic & unstable emotional behavior is normal.

Ok, but how does one break lineage based emotional & physiological patterns? It is both simple & difficult at the same time. The simple part is to not repatriate the bad behavior of your predecessors.

35) make an active & conscious choice to be a better person than your parents were. Learn to control your emotions, understand the consequences of unchecked emotions & the real damage they do to your relationships. If u cannot control your emotions alone, seek help from a

36) Professional who can teach u tools to help regulate yourself. The lineage is a thread of continuity. All it takes is one person in that thread to choose to stop perpetuating the lineage. Be gentle but firm. Do not waffle. Set the boundaries, but also create respect born from

37) love, not from fear. When a child respects their parent from love, they will generally mind the parent, not because they fear them, but because they love them. Our children are precious, but also highly imprintable. The failures one sees in one’s children are the failures we

38) as parents have taught them. If we are not firm in our boundaries- if we give them a punishment, such as I am taking your phone away for a month, but u give it back to them that day, that is not being firm, that is teaching the child that the parent is not strong enough to

39) set healthy boundaries, & also telling the child that they can break through your boundaries in the future. So, mandate punishments that can be accomplished in the attention span u have. Be firm, but gentle. Things such as physical challenges: running, push ups, physical

Challenges, tasks & physical chores that can be completed - not only help children physically & mentally, but also do not create lasting emotional damage. Screaming at a child is way more damaging emotionally than doing 50 pushups. They will remember just how often u raged at

41) them for their whole life, it will affect their ability to handle stress, handle uncomfortable situations, & have successful relationships, while also fostering disease in the future. Be the parent that chooses to break the lineage cycle. Be the person that consciously

42) chooses to start a lineage where anger / rage/ depression/ & fear are not used as tools to indoctrinate children into one’s family trauma. Be firm, be gentle, & create a new way. It takes bravery & active monitoring of self on the part of the parent, but the results often

Affect one’s lineage, up & down from the parent. As the curse of the sins of the lineage is lifted, relationships with one’s own parents, one’s own spouse & siblings, and the children of those siblings will change. Because the courage of an individual is contagious within a

44) family. When one does not invest in the broken lineage structure & does not react in the ways that was perpetrated for generations, it causes all to stop & think.., well if they are not doing this way, why am I doing it the same broken way still. Relationships improve, trust

45) is rebuilt, & yes there may always be holdouts, but a single courageous person who chooses to be different, can rewrite the whole lineage trajectory. Be brave.