@Theholisticpsyc: This is the partner the "angry...

This is the partner the "angry daughter" wants:

1. Someone who doesn't invalidate her: she's heard she's too sensitive or over reacting her whole life. She wants someone who listens, is curious about her feelings, and who wants to hear how to love her well.

2. Someone who protects her: she was never protected, and craves it. She wants someone who confidently puts people in their place when they disrespect her. She wants to take a deep breath and relax knowing she's taken care of, fully.

3. Someone who is capable: she's done it all herself without help. She wants someone who take initiative, and who relieves her from having to make all the decisions all of the time. Her love language is: "I already took care of that for you."

4. Someone who claims her, proudly: she's been the invisible child who was forced to play small. She wants to be loved out loud. She wants someone who lights up when she walks into a room and lets the world know she's taken.

5. Someone who takes her seriously: she wants her dreams, needs, ambitions, and her desires to be taken seriously. She doesn't want to be background noise in someone's life. She wants to be seen as the powerful being she is.

6. Someone who lets her fall apart: she's held it together and kept going when most people would stop, and wants a safe space to cry. She wants arms wrapped around her so she can fall apart. She wants to be fully supported, not fixed.

7. Someone who is calm and consistent: she's grown up in chaos, screaming, and conflict. She wants someone who can self regulate and does what they say they will. She wants a home where her nervous system can relax after years of being on alert.

8. Someone apologizes and repairs: she grew up not hearing "I'm sorry." She wants a partner who owns it, tries to do better, and admits when they're wrong. She wants mature adult love that builds lifelong trust.

9. Someone who makes her life easier, not harder: she doesn't want to manage another person. She wants a partner who looks for ways to lighten the load and give her breaks. She needs someone who's focused on giving her time to rest and recalibrate.

What would you add to this list?

Drop it in the comments...

My private healing community SelfHealers Circle is opening for enrollment.

Join thousand of members from around the world.

Spaces will sell out. Secure your spot here: selfhealerscircle.com